While catching up with friends over the holidays, I mentioned that my latest adventure would be purchasing a house with my husband. This enlightenment instantaneously set off a series of questions fired at me, everything and anything between what I’m giving up, what I’m sacrificing, and what I’ll be missing. I started to look inwards and question myself, and that was not a good feeling.
In no way has my passion and wanderlust been squashed. I didn’t travel to 27 countries without an immense amount of fervor and commitment enabling me to do so. Despite my relationship status I am still an independent woman, (something I like to make abundantly clear . . . just ask my husband). Just because I have decided to call it quits with annoying apartment life does not mean that I have broken and conformed with societal expectations and tossed my independence out the window with my values and passions along with it. Amid countless other reasons, I’m just trying to be successful enough in life to give my dog the backyard he deserves!
It has taken a great deal of compromise on my behalf to be where I am today, even though at first it may have felt like the most difficult of lessons. In my opinion, if I can have both travel and a home to come back to, then that is a win. A win to be celebrated! I never was an advocate of settling down because it is what society expects me to do at this stage in my life, nor have I ever been an advocate of being a permanent nomad. Ever. I made such realizations long ago.
Traveling and seeking adventure is something I will always place value on. But it does not have to be one or the other. You can have both, and that is what I am working towards because that is what works best for me, my relationship, and my precious angel of a dog. I love my dog to pieces and could never bear a life without him! My last trip to California was two weeks in length and I was heartsick missing him so much by the end. I will be so happy for the days of when I can provide him a nice yard to sniff, run, and roam freely to his heart’s content.
Something I have drastically come to realize is how tired I am of comparing myself to others and questioning my life decisions. For me, buying a house isn’t something I’m doing because I’m feeling pressured or obligated but because I feel like we truly deserve it. Since being together, my husband and I have moved five times (to and from different cities), taken risks, and gone out of our comfort zones in attempt to better our lives and attain what we ultimately aspire in life.
No one realizes how beautiful it is to travel until he comes home and rests his head on his old, familiar pillow.
– Lin Yutang
I am happy to report that my husband and I have purchased a house. A place to display my travel photography, a kitchen to cook exotic cuisines, and a familiar pillow to rest my head at night. With my dog and husband at my side . . . until we go away on our next adventure and inevitably miss our pup too much to continue beyond a two week time span.
Even as I write this my dog is next to me, sleeping with his head nestled against my leg. What is a world without him in it? I never want to know.