I used to struggle with compromise, and that is because all of my travels had been independent . . . at least until I met my fiancé. But even that isn’t entirely true, as I traveled to Southeast Asia (one of my best trips to date) without him. In fact, he was working hard at police college. For years and years I had my travel blinders on, and solely focused on researching different regions of the world and planning my next trip. Travel was a huge part of how I defined myself, and the idea of having to alter or compromise my steadfast travel plans really upset me. Travel was what I worked for, what I saved for. What I dreamed about, what I lived for.
But when you become invested in a serious and committed relationship while making plans for the future together, you have more to think about than just yourself. You do. It took some time for me to realize this – the way my stubborn and independent mentality was set, I was better not to be in a relationship at all. I fought it and fought it, afraid to lose the biggest means of how I defined myself. However, when two people are meant to be together, travel can be moved to the back burner, temporarily. During that time, big career changes were happening, I had just bought a car and paid tuition, two hefty rents were being paid, and a big upcoming move to another city was on the horizon – all things that would truly suck every last dime when happening simultaneously.
Lucky for me I was a good saver.
Somehow, my personal bank account supported a trip to Southeast Asia. I knew that this was an occurrence that would become much more rare in the coming future. So, I jumped on it and traveled to Thailand, Cambodia, and Laos, alone.
Was I supported when I made this decision? Both yes and no, and I’ll leave it at that, but one of the people who did support me was my boyfriend.
Being so headstrong and independent made it difficult for me to learn how to compromise. But once I did learn, I knew that a solid,
good great relationship wasn’t worth risking or damaging for something that will always be there.
The following year we traveled across the world together and fell in love with New Zealand. The year after that we weren’t able to travel internationally, together or apart. And that’s okay – other matters took precedence, as they will in other years to come.
This year however? Just wait and see :)